Anonymous Asked: ok so me & my bf have been together since 3.4.12 .. but we started talking like the end of January . I'm a virgin , he was not .... just last weekend , he told me to spend the night because he was leaving for spring break to another city... so i did. We ended up doing it ... & i just can't help the fact that we did it , not even within a month of being together ...what do you think about it ....

I think you didnt wait long enough. It takes time to realize whether or not someone is worth it. What you have is worth more than all the money in this world and so thats how you should treat it. But I also think that we all make decisions that aren’t exactly right. You said it yourself, you cant help the fact that you did it, it happened and you cant take it back. Its not something to beat yourself up about. So you’re not a virgin anymore, you’re not exactly “pure” in other peoples eyes, but that doesn’t mean you’re ruined or not as good as you were before, (body wise).  Just make a better decision next time. Your body is such a beautiful thing and only someone who deserves it should enjoy it. Someone who is willing to wait no matter how many girls walk by or how horny he gets. Someone who doesnt mind waiting because thats not the only thing on his mind. When you wait, you wont have second thoughts. Next time make him wait, make him prove his worth. Thats how you know whether he’s a keeper. And lastly, keep all your business TO YOURSELF. You dont need anybody in your ear making you feel bad about yourself. At the end of the day its your life, your decisions, and your vagina.

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Anonymous Asked: A while ago i met this guy . He made me feel something i hadnt felt since my ex passed . We got serious but when i asked him about being in a relationship he always used the baby he was going to have as an excuse . He broke my heart a few times & i always went back . He did something & we didnt talk for 3 weeks . We started talking and last saturday i had sex with him . i dont feel as attached though . I feel different & like i dont need him . I like him still and wanna keep talking but idk ?

He doesn’t want to be in a relationship because of his baby but yet he wants to have sex? Okay that makes me think that he only wants you for your body. If you want to be in a relationship with him, you need to remember that he has stated that he doesn’t want a relationship right now. So if you continue to try to be in one with him while he’s just having sex with you, you will end up looking like a fool. There’s nothing wrong with having sex with someone you’re not in a relationship with but there is something wrong with letting people use you. Now I dont really know what he’s thinking and you didn’t give me full details so I can’t say that he is trying to use you but you should watch out. Also, he’s about to have a baby which, if he’s a good man, will take up all of his time and attention. You can’t be his girlfriend, you can’t be the center of his attention so where do you fit in? If you really like him that much, you should try again later on in life and leave him alone for now.

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Anonymous Asked: Okay it's this boy. I really like him, people say he like me as well. But he shows it at times but not all the time. I like wanna ask him out but I just to scared he will say no and him and his friends will laugh. I just don't know what to do!

Just ask him. If he does say no, just move on. Being rejected is apart of life and its something that everyone goes through. Forget his friends. They don’t matter. Even if he does say no at least you’ll know how he feels and you won’t go your whole life wondering what if.

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Anonymous Asked: Hey :) There's a boy that I REALLY like but my friend likes him too; one minute she says she does then the next she says she doesn't. He told me he likes me but since we don't hang out he doesn't see the point but if we do start to hang out then he'll ask me out, but if anything were to happen between me and him i'd feel SO bad knowing that my friend likes him? Me and him talk A LOT in class, just not out, but I just love his company and how comfortable i feel around him.. ahh what should i do?

Your friend doesnt seem to have a solid mind. First she likes him then she doesn’t? Somethings wrong with that. If she knows that you also like him, she really doesn’t have a right to tell you that you cant talk to him because shes known all along. Tell her that you really like him and that you plan on talking to him more and that you don’t want to hurt her feelings by doing it. Then you should just go for it, you might be missing out on something good if you don’t.

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Anonymous Asked: My best friend introduced me to her brother, he's 4 years older than me. At first, he told me that he has a girlfriend and they were serious, then like a week after we met, he told me that they broke up and now he's been trying to go out with me. Ever since that he's being all lovey dovey. Right now it's kind of creeping me out. I told him that I'm taken, and he doesn't care. My boyfriend trusts me and knows I won't cheat on him. I don't know what to do aout him? He texts me 24/7.

Change your number and tell him that you are not interested in him at all whatsoever. Just straight up ignore him and if he doesn’t get the picture then have your boyfriend talk to him. (talk not argue)

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Anonymous Asked: when can i submit my pic to you? & what would you say to a girl that feels like shes no where near as pretty as the girls that submit to you??

Umm in about a week. i had something about this on my blog one time, but you will never be like the girls that submit to me, whether they are ugly or pretty. you forever and always will be yourself. so you gotta make it work. this sounds harsh but i had to beat this into my own head over and over again. YOU choose whether you are pretty or not. it doesnt matter what other people say or how many notes you get on a picture, what matters is what you think of yourself. you have to believe you are just as pretty as all the other girls. as soon as you do that, your belief will be true.

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Anonymous Asked: Okay, so I broke up with my boyfriend because i thought he was cheating on me. But I found out he wasn't and we started flirting again. But just the other night I found out that one of my best friends has been flirting with him ever since we broke up. And she lied to me and said they weren't. But the person who told me that my best friend was flirting with the guy begged me not to bring it up to the friend because the friend will be super mad at the friend who told me. What do I do?

Thats real tricky, because I can see where the other friend is coming from. The friend that told you (friend B) about the other friend (friend A) flirting with your ex is doing right by telling you, however she shouldn’t care whether or not you tell friend A that she said it, because after all, you’re supposed to let your friend know when she/he is doing wrong. What I just told you, thats what you need to tell friend B. Friend B shouldnt care about friend A getting mad. She’s doing just what she’s supposed to be doing. So you three should get together and talk about it, but tell friend B that you plan for yall to talk first so that she wont be all lost and feel backstabbed when all you guys talk. That way if friend A gets mad, you can tell her what I just told you about what friends are supposed to do. SOMEBODY is lying. If whoever is lying fesses up to it, dont trust them anymore. That person is not your friend. If no one comes clean, you might end up with only one friend, or no friends at all. But sometimes shit like that happens.

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Anonymous Asked: Bff name = Alyssa; Alyssa has Been going out with this boy for a couple months now , recently alyssa"s boyfriend asked me if I get mad when he hangs out with Alyssa a lot and less with me I said sometimes and I guess he got a little mad about it , this whole week Alyssa has not been acting the same as she usually does , what should I do ? I can't talk to her about it because I know she's going yo tell her boyfriend he's going to put on a show .

Getting mad is a natural feeling, this is your best friend who you hang out with all the time (im guessing) and now all of a sudden she’s not as available as she was before. i would tell her that you’re not comfortable with the way she’s been acting and if there is something wrong then she should tell you. you guys should be able to talk that out since yall are bestfriends. and if not, then she’s the one with the probems &  she needs to realize that her short term relationship is not more important than her friendship. boys come and go, but best friends dont. dont be afraid of her boyfriend, fuck him

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Anonymous Asked: I have really low self esteem I look at myself and I get mad because of my weight , I hate looking at myself in the mirror , I try to stop insulting myself and just be who I am but it doesn't work all the time , what should I do ?

If you dont like something about yourself, you should change it. You dont like how much you weigh? Create a workout plan and stay dedicated, & research online what type of foods you should and shouldnt be eating. ( or is it that you want to gain weight? But you get the picture. ) Before you do that you must realize that how much you weigh does NOT make you ugly. And you’re not going to realize it just by reading some encouraging words from me, because it may make you feel better, but that feeling will wear off and your insecurities will resurface. You need gain confidence. Notice, I said gain. Its not going to happen overnight. Just like loosing weight, its not going to happen at the snap of a finger. It will take time but it will come.

The first thing you should do in the morning is get in front of that mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are & admire yourself. Then walk away. Don’t give yourself any time to start having negative thoughts. And when you walk away, walk with your shoulders up right and your head high. This should start and end your day.

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Anonymous Asked: Can you pleaasssseeee help me out. I got grounded for a month, and while I was grounded I was suppose to write 100 things I appreciate about my parents and what they do for me. Could you ask your followers to make a list of 100 things to appreciate. Pleassee. My mom said she will delete my tumblr and ground me for another month if I don't give her the list by tomorrow.. Please help me out? :)

No I won’t. Because your parents are different from everyone else’s. Your parents might do things that other people’s parents don’t. & No one knows what they do for you. I hate to sound like your mom or dad, but this could be a good thing for you to do. It could open your eyes to how much time and effort your parents put in to raise you in the right way and to make you happy. I can tell you something to get you started. First thing you should appreciate is your parents giving you life, because you wouldn’t be here without them. Your mom could have aborted you, or left you out in the trash to die. But no, you have a roof over your head and food to eat, am I not right?

Life, A roof over your head, Food to eat — Look, you have 3 things right there.

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Anonymous Asked: The boy I like found out, and now we don't talk as much. We used to talk at least every other day and now it's like once or twice a week. Midterms are going on though, so I don't know if it's midterms or maybe he just isn't interested. Do you have any advice?

So he knows that you like him now. Just ask him how he feels, that’s not the only way to go about it, but its the BEST way. Then you don’t have to spend time “investigating” the way he feels, you can hear the words right from his mouth. It can make you happy, or it can make you sad, but if it does, don’t let it crush you. & Since midterms are going on, focus on that before him. If its messing with your head and you cant concentrate on school, get it out of the way first. But if its not affecting school, get the midterms out of the way first.

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Anonymous Asked: Oh yeah sorry I'm the one who asked trouble about the guy who has a girlfriend still but yes when i text him he texts back and we have long conversations

Oh well I still think the same thing. Don’t become a sideline.

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Anonymous Asked: i've had a thing with this guy for over 4 months now, sometimes he will go days or even weeks without talking to me. and he only usually texts me when he's been drinking and says that he misses me but he never does anything about it. every time im ready to give up on him he always decides that he wants back in my life. do i give up?

He doesn’t know what he wants. He has a little growing up to do, seems like. Go up to him and ask him straight up how he feels about you while he’s sober. All this confusion is really wasting your time that you could be spending with someone else. Tell him that all this “i miss you” TALK is unacceptable and that he’ll have to show it. His response and how he acts afterwards will determine whether or not you should give up.

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Anonymous Asked: Me and this boy met at school, and i liked him and i thought he liked me. I found out from his friends that he was just messing with me, it really upset me and im having a hard time getting over it. What should i do?

Look at the questions I’ve answered on my blog, when I talked about moving on. That ALWAYS works. But you guys weren’t in a relationship, so maybe find some other dude to talk to and flirt with. When you say that he was just messing with you, do you mean he was just tryna get some? Or…? 

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Anonymous Asked: im just adding to the last question. He has told a couple people that he still likes me and wants to go back out with me yet he doesnt act that way. so its very confusing. Thank you for you advice still!

Remember that actions speak louder than words. Like when people constantly say that they want to be successful in life, but yet they don’t try in school and arent looking for a job. People always talk about how they want to make it to heaven, but they don’t bother to do anything for God. See what I mean?

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